Do the Bad Guys and Gals "Always" Win?

Of course, nobody "always" wins or loses. But, sometimes it feels that way.

It's painful to be forced through a divorce by a bad boy or bad girl spouse. It's more painful to go through it and then get beat up and robbed of everything precious by a bad girl divorce lawyer and a bad boy family court judge.

From the start the cheaters seem to have the edge. Unlike you, they've had time to plan this divorce and choose the timing of it totally in their favor. They've been studying divorce, getting advice from friends, reading books on it, and finding out what they have to do before they have the divorce papers served. They know when to send the family savings over to the affair partner's account and how to make sure the faithful have to go to other family members for money to live or pay for attorney fees, if they can afford an attorney at all. They're in control of the divorce, and you are not.

So you get an attorney. If you can afford it. If your money has not been totally squirreled away in the affair partner's account. But, you expect to get that money back, or at least your share. But, the attorney requires cash in advance. They're paid by the hour from a retainer fund.

So, you think you have a representative in your corner. You feel secure. Protected. Understood. Comforted.

Making Money off the Suffering of the Faithful

Guess what? Your attorney is not paid to win your case. He or she is paid to run the clock. If you win quickly, that's less money for your attorney. If you lose and fight again, that's more money for your attorney. So, if your attorney is a bad boy or bad girl attorney, do you think your attorney would be encouraged to help you win?

Also, who do you think brings business into the divorce industry? The faithful, or the unfaithful? If divorce rates go down, will attorneys gain or lose money?

Divorce attorneys and family court judges have a personal financial incentive to reward the unfaithful because the bad boys and bad girls are the people who bring money into the legal community.

The Real Final Judgment

But, there is comfort in knowing that this court is not the Eternal Judge. This life is merely an opportunity to demonstrate our love for God through all the injustices and tribulations that are here on earth. God and all of heaven will see clearly that if we perish into hell, it will be for good reason, and if we are saved, it will be by the grace of God.

In the end, there will be no adulterers in heaven. There will be no liars. There will be no thieves, no unfaithful spouses, no cruel and abusive people, no corrupt attorneys or judges. Those who celebrate their ill-gotten gain here on earth will find it a millstone of sin tied to their necks and thrown into the lake of fire on that final day.

A way of Escape

If every penny of ill-gotten gain will hang like a millstone around the necks of all who support this terror against the faithful and their children, and if these people are headed for hell, is there a way of escape for them?

It isn't right to entertain hatred and bitterness hoping they will never repent and escape the flames of hell. After all, they are sinners just like us, and Jesus died for them and loves them just as He died for us and loves us.

But, part of the reason we feel anger and bitterness is that we feel the demands of justice have been dropped, and that creates a dangerous situation for everyone.

Part of the problem is that people have mistaken the grace of God for cheap grace. Even though they would not say it this way, in essense, to them, Jesus' death on the cross was not to save them from sin, but to save them from the consequences of sin while giving them a license to sin and abuse God and others freely.

That is why repentance also involves restitution -- returning ill-gotten gain back to the rightful owners. In a marriage, spouses own each other -- not as slaves, but as spouses in a marriage. They own the promises given to them by the other spouse. They lay aside their right to divorce and marry another when they say "'til death do us part."

When attorneys and judges get wealthy destroying the families of little children and abusing and robbing their faithful parents, when they join in the plunder rewarding the unfaithful, how will these attorneys and judges ever make restitution and make their repentance real? If they justify or excuse themselves, will God be fooled?

The Bible says Jesus will divide the people as though to divide the sheep from the goats, and He will say, "in as much as you have done it to the least of the brethren, you have done it unto Me", and some will be invited into heaven while others will be cast into the place created for the devil and his angels.

If these people had a heart for heaven, they would turn against this sin and fight it with all they have and with all they are. They would denounce and renounce what they had done and what they had gained unjustly at others' expense, and they would seek God with all their hearts to know how they might make restitution fully.

"Other women" and "Other men" would repent and end their adulterous relationships with married people, and unfaithful spouses would return to their rightful spouses even if that meant going through a second divorce from an adulterous marriage to do so. Children would ask why, and the parents would lovingly instruct them in the reasons why the sanctity of marriage is to be treated with respect.

Some will repent. Some will perish. Some will repent late and their children will perish by their examples.

So, we really have no reason to envy those who seem to win unfairly in the battle for faithfulness.