Of course, nobody "always" wins or loses. But, sometimes it feels that way.

It's painful to be forced through a divorce by a bad boy or bad girl spouse. It's more painful to go through it and then get beat up and robbed of everything precious by a bad girl divorce lawyer and a bad boy family court judge.

From the start the cheaters seem to have the edge. Unlike you, they've had time to plan this divorce and choose the timing of it totally in their favor. They've been studying divorce, getting advice from friends, reading books on it, and finding out what they have to do before they have the divorce papers served. They know when to send the family savings over to the affair partner's account and how to make sure the faithful have to go to other family members for money to live or pay for attorney fees, if they can afford an attorney at all. They're in control of the divorce, and you are not.